The book, Surviving a Borderline Parent, and this website are no substitute for professional advice. If you’re seeking further information or need help, contact a therapist, medical professional or emergency responder.
WEBSITES (SCROLL DOWN FOR ARTICLES AND BLOGS)
The site contains numerous resources, including the longstanding WelcomeToOz online forums with one dedicated to adult children with a parent with BPD.
BPD Central is published by Randi Kreger, author of Stop Walking on Eggshells, the Stop Walking on Eggshells Workbook and The Essential Family Guide to Borderline Personality Disorder. Kreger also wrote the foreword to Surviving A Borderline Parent.
High Conflict Institute
Published by therapist and lawyer Bill Eddy, who offers a number of articles, books and online training around dealing with high conflict personalities (HCPs). He describes HCPs as displaying patterns “of high-conflict behavior that increases conflict rather than reduc[es] or resolv[es] it” including:
- All-or-nothing thinking
- Unmanaged emotions
- Extreme behaviors
- Blaming others
While Bill’s work doesn’t focus specifically on BPD, it addresses key aspects of BPD, narcissism and other personality disorders, and may be helpful to adult children trying to communicate and set boundaries with a borderline parent. To learn more, look at his “Who Are High Conflict People” page.
ARTICLES AND BLOGS
When Parents are Too Toxic to Tolerate by Richard Friedman, MD in The New York Times
Forgiveness Isn’t All It’s Cracked Up To Be, an NPR interview with the two authors listed above, Yoffe and Friedman
You Carry the Cure in Your Own Heart, a powerful essay by child protection attorney, advocate and writer Andrew Vachss, published in Parade magazine
The Legacy of a Narcissistic Parent by Dr. Robin Berman, author of Permission to Parent: How to Raise Your Child with Love and Limits, in goop
The Legacy of Distorted Love blog by therapist Karyl McBride on PsycologyToday.com. McBride is also the author of Will I Ever Be Good Enough? Healing the Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers. (Narcissism often co-occurs with BPD.)
Borderline: Walking the Line, an article by Matthew Hutson in Psychology Today addressing the question: Can you live with, and move beyond, a relationship with a borderline parent?
The Puzzle of BPD, an article by Surviving A Borderline Parent co-author Kimberlee Roth for the Chicago Tribune